When relationships break up, what happens to the love? Is it forgotten? Sealed off within the heart and laid to rest? Does it fade? Or does it continue to burn throughout your life?
The heart never forgets the love it has felt. It is our brain that teaches us to carry on regardless of the emotional upheaval. It’s survival instinct. We shouldn’t be, forever, caught up in the haze of loss and misery for a relationship that no longer exists. We can’t keep asking ourselves why…. Why did it happen? Why didn’t it last? Why weren’t we right? We have to move on. We have to overcome. This in itself causes me great unrest. I believe in love. I believe in the power of love. I believe that love is fine and rare and should never be taken for granted. Love deserves respect, loyalty, honesty, trust. When I feel it, I give it 110%, because that feeling doesn’t come often to me. So to love someone only to lose them confuses me. Not an uncommon reaction obviously, but it’s a confusion that halts my world. It demands understanding, answered questions; some of which are unanswerable, but are, never-the-less, necessary to ask.
The brain is an amazing organ, allowing us to evolve through the toughest of times. The change is painful, the growth insurmountable and the results, well, evolutionary. We have to carry on. I’m sure there are better ways of doing so than others, but we all move on in our own way and in our own time; ‘whatever is right for us.’ Accepting one thing as a constant….although the truth may elude us, everything happens for a reason.
So, love……the love in my heart still exists. That love will never die, yet, nor will the desire to have love again ever dissipate. Though the relationship has gone, the love for that person remains; a permanent fixture, locked within its own unique space in my heart and soul forevermore. And no matter what, even though life had other plans for us, nothing can ever take away that beauty.